Emotions and Culture II

Emotions and Culture-II

IGQ

These are questions about your emotions. Please answer using the 1 to 5 response scale indicated.

Very untrue of me OR strongly disagree Not true of me OR disagree Sometimes true and sometimes not true OR undecided True of me OR agree Very true of me OR strongly agree

I conceal or minimize my successes.

It makes me uncomfortable to have critical thoughts about my parents.

I worry a great deal about my parents, or children, or siblings.

It makes me very uncomfortable to receive better treatment than the people I am with.

It is difficult to see my parent's flaws.

I am afraid to fully enjoy my successes because I fear something bad is just around the corner.

I often find myself doing what someone else wants me to do rather than doing what I would most enjoy.

Other people's misfortunes do not affect me.

I feel bad when I disagree with my parent's ideas or values, even if I keep it to myself.

I worry about hurting other people's feelings if I turn down an invitation from somebody who is eager for me to accept.

I sometimes feel I don't deserve the happiness I've achieved.

I wish I could be more like my parents.

I enjoy having other people envy me.

It is very hard for me to cancel plans if I know the other person is looking forward to seeing me.

I feel responsible at social gatherings for people who are not able to enter into conversations with others.

I feel that bad things may happen to my family if I do not stay in close contact with them.

I worry a lot about the people I love even when they seem to be fine.

Very untrue of me OR strongly disagree Not true of me OR disagree Sometimes true and sometimes not true OR undecided True of me OR agree Very true of me OR strongly agree

I am able to retain my good humor even after seeing beggars or homeless people.

It makes me anxious to be away from home for too long.

I generally have trouble saying no to people, i.e. refusing other people's deadlines.

I don't feel sorry for people who are less fortunate or successful than I am.

I am uncomfortable talking about my achievements in social situations.

I feel uncomfortable if I don't do things in the same way my parents did.

I can't stand the idea of hurting someone else.

I feel uncomfortable if other people envy me for what I have.

I prefer to do things the way my parents did them.

I don't let my parents make me feel responsible for their unhappiness.

It does not disturb me to see very poor people.

In social situations, I like to talk about my accomplishments.

I am very reluctant to express an opinion that is different from the opinions held by family or friends.

If my child, spouse or close friends have a problem, I am very tempted to try to solve it for them.

It makes me very uncomfortable if I am more successful at something than are my friends or family members.

I don't mind saying negative things about my parents.

I am afraid to be alone.

Very untrue of me OR strongly disagree Not true of me OR disagree Sometimes true and sometimes not true OR undecided True of me OR agree Very true of me OR strongly agree

I feel uncomfortable when I feel better than other people.

I have no difficulty rejecting my family's values.

My parent's problems are their own concern, not mine.

I am relieved when my spouse, my siblings, my parents, or my children are successful or confident, or when they achieve recognition or honors.

I am glad I am not like my parents.

I can't be happy when a friend or relative is suffering a disappointment.

It is easy for me to say no to others.

It is often hard for me to enjoy things that I have been looking forward to.

I would feel terrible if I did not love my parents.

I don't worry about my parents or children.

I am afraid to get what I want because I feel there will be a price to pay that I did not anticipate.

One's parents should always come first.

If something goes wrong in the family I tend to ask myself how could I have prevented it.

I tend to get somewhat depressed after important accomplishments.

I feel guilty about not liking my parents.

When I get a little extra money I feel tempted to share it with a poor friend or relative.

When a friend or relative suffers a misfortune I imagine how I would feel if I suffered a similar misfortune.

MEC

Below is a series of statements which describe how people act and feel in particular situations.
Please indicate which button corresponds with how characteristic the statement is of you.

Not at all characteristic of me Slightly characteristic of me Moderately characteristic of me Very characteristic of me Extremely characteristic of me

When I see someone who badly needs help in an emergency, I go to pieces.

I often have tender, concerned feelings for people less fortunate than me.

I sometimes find it difficult to see things from the "other guy's" point of view.

Sometimes I don't feel very sorry for other people when they are having problems.

Before criticizing somebody, I try to imagine how I would feel if I were in their place.

In emergency situations, I feel apprehensive and ill-at-ease.

I would describe myself as a pretty soft-hearted person.

I try to look at everybody's side of a disagreement before I make a decision.

When I see someone being taken advantage of, I feel kind of protective towards them.

I sometimes feel helpless when I am in the middle of a very emotional situation.

I sometimes try to understand my friends better by imagining how things look from their perspective.

Not at all characteristic of me Slightly characteristic of me Moderately characteristic of me Very characteristic of me Extremely characteristic of me

I tend to lose control during emergencies.

When I see someone get hurt, I tend to remain calm.

Other people's misfortunes do not usually disturb me a great deal.

If I'm sure I'm right about something, I don't waste much time listening to other people's arguments.

When I'm upset at someone, I usually try to "put myself in his shoes" for awhile.

Being in a tense emotional situation scares me.

When I see someone being treated unfairly, I sometimes don't feel very much pity for them.

I am usually pretty effective in dealing with emergencies.

I am often quite touched by things that I see happen.

I believe that there are two sides to every question and try to look at them both.

DAS

People help each other in a lot of different ways. Think about ways you have helped others (like family, friends, co-workers, or even strangers) in the past, when you thought they needed help. Use the scale below to rate how much you have helped others in the past, when you thought they needed it. Try to base your answers on your past experience with these people. Use the scale below and circle one number under family, one number under friends, and one under strangers in each row.

(a) Family (b) Friends (c) Strangers

Never Rarely Some-
times Often Very often Never Rarely Some-
times Often Very often Never Rarely Some-
times Often Very often

Suggested doing something, just to take their mind off their problems

Visited with them or invited them over

Comforted them when they were upset

Gave them a ride if they needed one

Had lunch or dinner with them

Looked after their belongings (house, pets, etc.) for awhile

Loaned them a car when they needed one

Joked around or suggested doing something to cheer them up

Went to a movie or concert with them

Suggested how they could find out more about a situation

Helped them with a move or a big chore

Listened when they needed to talk about their feelings

Had a good time with them

Paid for lunch when they were broke

Suggested a way they might do something

(a) Family (b) Friends (c) Strangers

Never Rarely Some-
times Often Very often Never Rarely Some-
times Often Very often Never Rarely Some-
times Often Very often

Gave them encouragement to do something difficult

Gave them advice about what to do

Chatted with them

Helped them figure out what they wanted to do

Showed them that I understood what they wanted to do

Bought them a drink when they were short of money

Helped them to decide what to do

Gave them a hug or otherwise showed I cared about them

Called them just to see how they were doing

Helped them figure out what was going on

Helped them out with some necessary purchase

Did not pass judgment on them

Told them who to talk to for help

Loaned them money for an indefinite amount of time

Showed sympathy when they were upset

(a) Family (b) Friends (c) Strangers

Never Rarely Some-
times Often Very often Never Rarely Some-
times Often Very often Never Rarely Some-
times Often Very often

Stuck by them in a crunch

Bought them clothes when they were short of money

Told them about the available choices and options

Loaned them things when they needed them

Gave them reasons why they should or should not do something

Showed affection for them

Showed them how to do something they didn't know how to do

Brought them little presents of things I thought they needed

Told them the best way to get something done

Talked to other people to arrange something for them

Loaned them money and wanted to "forget about it"

Told them what to do

Offered them a place to stay for awhile

Helped them think about a problem

Loaned them a fairly large sum of money (say the equivalent of a month's rent or mortgage)

CESD
Select the answer that best describes your situation over the past week.

During the Past Week: Rarely or none of the time
(less than 1 day) Some or little of the time
(1-2 days) Occasionally or a moderate amount of time
(3-4 days) Most or all of the time
(5-7 days)

I was bothered by things that usually don't bother me.

I did not feel like eating; my appetite was poor.

I felt that I could not shake off the blues even with help from my family or friends.

I felt that I was just as good as other people.

I had trouble keeping my mind on what I was doing.

I felt depressed.

I felt that everything I did was an effort.

I felt hopeful about the future.

I thought my life had been a failure.

I felt fearful.

My sleep was restless.

I was happy.

I talked less than usual.

I felt lonely.

People were unfriendly.

I enjoyed life.

I had crying spells.

I felt sad.

I felt people disliked me.

I could not get "going".

BFI
Here are a number of characteristics that may or may not apply to you. For example, do you agree that you are someone who likes to spend time with others? Next to each statement, please indicate the extent to which you agree or disagree with that statement.

I see myself as someone who... Strongly Disagree Moderately Disagree No Opinion Moderately Agree Strongly Agree

Is talkative

Tends to find fault with others

Does a thorough job

Is depressed, blue

Is original, comes up with new ideas

Is reserved

Is helpful and unselfish with others

Can be somewhat careless

Is relaxed, handles stress well

Is curious about many different things

Is full of energy

Starts quarrels with others

Is a reliable worker

Can be tense

Is ingenious, a deep thinker

Generates a lot of enthusiasm

Has a forgiving nature

Tends to be disorganized

Worries a lot

Has an active imagination

Tends to be quiet

Is generally trusting

I see myself as someone who... Strongly Disagree Moderately Disagree No Opinion Moderately Agree Strongly Agree

Tends to be lazy

Is emotionally stable, not easily upset

Is inventive

Has an assertive personality

Can be cold and aloof

Perseveres until the task is finished

Can be moody

Values artistic, aesthetic experiences

Is sometimes shy, inhibited

Is considerate and kind to almost everyone

Does things efficiently

Remains calm in tense situations

Prefers work that is routine

Is outgoing, sociable

Is sometimes rude to others

Makes plans and follows through with them

Gets nervous easily

Likes to reflect, play with ideas

Has few artistic interests

Likes to cooperate with others

Is easily distracted

Is sophisticated in art, music, or literature

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Age:

Gender:
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Native American
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In what country did you spend most of your youth?

In what city and state did you spend most of your youth?

In what country are you currently living?

In what city and state do you currently live?

How long have you lived there? (In years)

Where would you place your parents on the following spectrum for social class?

If financially independent, where would you place yourself on the following spectrum for social class? (if you are not financially independent, please select the 'Not financially independent' option)

Number of years of formal education your mother or father (whichever is the highest) has completed:

Number of years of formal education you have completed:

What is your religious background, i.e. what religion did you grow up with?

What is your current religion?

If you are Buddhist, please answer the following questions.

With which form of Buddhism are you affiliated:

Vajrayana
Mahayana
Theravada
Soto Zen
Pure Land
Other (Please specify below)

Do you meditate?

For how long have you been meditating?

If you meditate, how often do you meditate?

If you meditate, for how long do you usually meditate?

Have you ever attended a spiritual retreat?

The most important goal of my meditation practice is to: (check the one that is MOST important to you)
relax
improve my health (blood pressure, weight, smoking, etc.)
make me more positive in general
get out of samsara or cyclic existence
become enlightened
benefit all sentient beings
other (please specify below)

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How familiar are you with Lojong (mind traning).

How familiar are you with the practices and teachings of Mahayana Buddhism?

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	Very untrue of me OR strongly disagree	Not true of me OR disagree	Sometimes true and sometimes not true OR undecided	True of me OR agree	Very true of me OR strongly agree
I conceal or minimize my successes.
It makes me uncomfortable to have critical thoughts about my parents.
I worry a great deal about my parents, or children, or siblings.
It makes me very uncomfortable to receive better treatment than the people I am with.
It is difficult to see my parent's flaws.
I am afraid to fully enjoy my successes because I fear something bad is just around the corner.
I often find myself doing what someone else wants me to do rather than doing what I would most enjoy.
Other people's misfortunes do not affect me.
I feel bad when I disagree with my parent's ideas or values, even if I keep it to myself.
I worry about hurting other people's feelings if I turn down an invitation from somebody who is eager for me to accept.
I sometimes feel I don't deserve the happiness I've achieved.
I wish I could be more like my parents.
I enjoy having other people envy me.
It is very hard for me to cancel plans if I know the other person is looking forward to seeing me.
I feel responsible at social gatherings for people who are not able to enter into conversations with others.
I feel that bad things may happen to my family if I do not stay in close contact with them.
I worry a lot about the people I love even when they seem to be fine.
	Very untrue of me OR strongly disagree	Not true of me OR disagree	Sometimes true and sometimes not true OR undecided	True of me OR agree	Very true of me OR strongly agree
I am able to retain my good humor even after seeing beggars or homeless people.
It makes me anxious to be away from home for too long.
I generally have trouble saying no to people, i.e. refusing other people's deadlines.
I don't feel sorry for people who are less fortunate or successful than I am.
I am uncomfortable talking about my achievements in social situations.
I feel uncomfortable if I don't do things in the same way my parents did.
I can't stand the idea of hurting someone else.
I feel uncomfortable if other people envy me for what I have.
I prefer to do things the way my parents did them.
I don't let my parents make me feel responsible for their unhappiness.
It does not disturb me to see very poor people.
In social situations, I like to talk about my accomplishments.
I am very reluctant to express an opinion that is different from the opinions held by family or friends.
If my child, spouse or close friends have a problem, I am very tempted to try to solve it for them.
It makes me very uncomfortable if I am more successful at something than are my friends or family members.
I don't mind saying negative things about my parents.
I am afraid to be alone.
	Very untrue of me OR strongly disagree	Not true of me OR disagree	Sometimes true and sometimes not true OR undecided	True of me OR agree	Very true of me OR strongly agree
I feel uncomfortable when I feel better than other people.
I have no difficulty rejecting my family's values.
My parent's problems are their own concern, not mine.
I am relieved when my spouse, my siblings, my parents, or my children are successful or confident, or when they achieve recognition or honors.
I am glad I am not like my parents.
I can't be happy when a friend or relative is suffering a disappointment.
It is easy for me to say no to others.
It is often hard for me to enjoy things that I have been looking forward to.
I would feel terrible if I did not love my parents.
I don't worry about my parents or children.
I am afraid to get what I want because I feel there will be a price to pay that I did not anticipate.
One's parents should always come first.
If something goes wrong in the family I tend to ask myself how could I have prevented it.
I tend to get somewhat depressed after important accomplishments.
I feel guilty about not liking my parents.
When I get a little extra money I feel tempted to share it with a poor friend or relative.
When a friend or relative suffers a misfortune I imagine how I would feel if I suffered a similar misfortune.

	Not at all characteristic of me	Slightly characteristic of me	Moderately characteristic of me	Very characteristic of me	Extremely characteristic of me
When I see someone who badly needs help in an emergency, I go to pieces.
I often have tender, concerned feelings for people less fortunate than me.
I sometimes find it difficult to see things from the "other guy's" point of view.
Sometimes I don't feel very sorry for other people when they are having problems.
Before criticizing somebody, I try to imagine how I would feel if I were in their place.
In emergency situations, I feel apprehensive and ill-at-ease.
I would describe myself as a pretty soft-hearted person.
I try to look at everybody's side of a disagreement before I make a decision.
When I see someone being taken advantage of, I feel kind of protective towards them.
I sometimes feel helpless when I am in the middle of a very emotional situation.
I sometimes try to understand my friends better by imagining how things look from their perspective.
	Not at all characteristic of me	Slightly characteristic of me	Moderately characteristic of me	Very characteristic of me	Extremely characteristic of me
I tend to lose control during emergencies.
When I see someone get hurt, I tend to remain calm.
Other people's misfortunes do not usually disturb me a great deal.
If I'm sure I'm right about something, I don't waste much time listening to other people's arguments.
When I'm upset at someone, I usually try to "put myself in his shoes" for awhile.
Being in a tense emotional situation scares me.
When I see someone being treated unfairly, I sometimes don't feel very much pity for them.
I am usually pretty effective in dealing with emergencies.
I am often quite touched by things that I see happen.
I believe that there are two sides to every question and try to look at them both.

	(a) Family					(b) Friends					(c) Strangers
	Never	Rarely	Some- times	Often	Very often	Never	Rarely	Some- times	Often	Very often	Never	Rarely	Some- times	Often	Very often
Suggested doing something, just to take their mind off their problems
Visited with them or invited them over
Comforted them when they were upset
Gave them a ride if they needed one
Had lunch or dinner with them
Looked after their belongings (house, pets, etc.) for awhile
Loaned them a car when they needed one
Joked around or suggested doing something to cheer them up
Went to a movie or concert with them
Suggested how they could find out more about a situation
Helped them with a move or a big chore
Listened when they needed to talk about their feelings
Had a good time with them
Paid for lunch when they were broke
Suggested a way they might do something
	(a) Family					(b) Friends					(c) Strangers
	Never	Rarely	Some- times	Often	Very often	Never	Rarely	Some- times	Often	Very often	Never	Rarely	Some- times	Often	Very often
Gave them encouragement to do something difficult
Gave them advice about what to do
Chatted with them
Helped them figure out what they wanted to do
Showed them that I understood what they wanted to do
Bought them a drink when they were short of money
Helped them to decide what to do
Gave them a hug or otherwise showed I cared about them
Called them just to see how they were doing
Helped them figure out what was going on
Helped them out with some necessary purchase
Did not pass judgment on them
Told them who to talk to for help
Loaned them money for an indefinite amount of time
Showed sympathy when they were upset
	(a) Family					(b) Friends					(c) Strangers
	Never	Rarely	Some- times	Often	Very often	Never	Rarely	Some- times	Often	Very often	Never	Rarely	Some- times	Often	Very often
Stuck by them in a crunch
Bought them clothes when they were short of money
Told them about the available choices and options
Loaned them things when they needed them
Gave them reasons why they should or should not do something
Showed affection for them
Showed them how to do something they didn't know how to do
Brought them little presents of things I thought they needed
Told them the best way to get something done
Talked to other people to arrange something for them
Loaned them money and wanted to "forget about it"
Told them what to do
Offered them a place to stay for awhile
Helped them think about a problem
Loaned them a fairly large sum of money (say the equivalent of a month's rent or mortgage)

During the Past Week:	Rarely or none of the time (less than 1 day)	Some or little of the time (1-2 days)	Occasionally or a moderate amount of time (3-4 days)	Most or all of the time (5-7 days)
I was bothered by things that usually don't bother me.
I did not feel like eating; my appetite was poor.
I felt that I could not shake off the blues even with help from my family or friends.
I felt that I was just as good as other people.
I had trouble keeping my mind on what I was doing.
I felt depressed.
I felt that everything I did was an effort.
I felt hopeful about the future.
I thought my life had been a failure.
I felt fearful.
My sleep was restless.
I was happy.
I talked less than usual.
I felt lonely.
People were unfriendly.
I enjoyed life.
I had crying spells.
I felt sad.
I felt people disliked me.
I could not get "going".

I see myself as someone who...	Strongly Disagree	Moderately Disagree	No Opinion	Moderately Agree	Strongly Agree
Is talkative
Tends to find fault with others
Does a thorough job
Is depressed, blue
Is original, comes up with new ideas
Is reserved
Is helpful and unselfish with others
Can be somewhat careless
Is relaxed, handles stress well
Is curious about many different things
Is full of energy
Starts quarrels with others
Is a reliable worker
Can be tense
Is ingenious, a deep thinker
Generates a lot of enthusiasm
Has a forgiving nature
Tends to be disorganized
Worries a lot
Has an active imagination
Tends to be quiet
Is generally trusting
I see myself as someone who...	Strongly Disagree	Moderately Disagree	No Opinion	Moderately Agree	Strongly Agree
Tends to be lazy
Is emotionally stable, not easily upset
Is inventive
Has an assertive personality
Can be cold and aloof
Perseveres until the task is finished
Can be moody
Values artistic, aesthetic experiences
Is sometimes shy, inhibited
Is considerate and kind to almost everyone
Does things efficiently
Remains calm in tense situations
Prefers work that is routine
Is outgoing, sociable
Is sometimes rude to others
Makes plans and follows through with them
Gets nervous easily
Likes to reflect, play with ideas
Has few artistic interests
Likes to cooperate with others
Is easily distracted
Is sophisticated in art, music, or literature

	Unfamiliar	Slightly familiar	Familiar	Very familiar	Expert
How familiar are you with Lojong (mind traning).
How familiar are you with the practices and teachings of Mahayana Buddhism?